This blog was created so anyone can have the chance to write any personal stories or memories they have of Adira a"h. This way her husband and beautiful new daughter can have always have this to read and know that many people loved Adira.
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
For Adira
Please comment on this posting to submit your thoughts/memories/feelings of Adira.
Good Morning and Chodesh Tov, I am sure we are all having a hard today since we woke up to the news of the passing of our dear friend, Adira (Miller) Boltshauser. I am sure many of you are thinking like I am, disbelief and sadness. In addition, we all want to know what to do as a zechus for Chaya Adira Chana -as Shoshana for her Neshama. A friend has created a blog in order for all of us to write memories we have of our dear friend. Writing down good memories of her kind deeds, sweetfulness, and her thoughtful personality will not only keep our memories alive, but should also be a zechus for her neshama to have an aliyah. Please share your memories and may it be a zechus for leilui nishmasa for Chaya Adira Chana -as Shoshana.
Chodesh Tov and may we only share in Mesoros Tovos!
Mazal Tov, you had a beautiful girl. We are crying for you that you are not alive to hold her or shower her with love, even though your neshama knows about her. Its extremely painful for your friends that you could go like this, and we want to believe its not true, because well, you're Adira. I am thinking about all the times in seminary we made fun of you for being one of the few girls in seminary to be in Honors Classes. You didn't care- you made fun of yourself too- and then you continued your papers and working extra hard. I always was envious of your drive and that you were willing to put in extra work. We also used to joke in our apartment how you wouldn't come out of the bathroom after a shower until you were not only dressed, but your socks were on! You took modesty very seriously, in both dress and demeanor. You came to my engagement party with Yehuda and you didn't tell us you were engaged! You had this huge simcha, but didn't want to take the excitement from our spotlight. You two were so perfect for each other! Then you made a humongous transition from Touro in NY to living in Kiryat Sefer. I can't even imagine how hard that was, and I vaguely remember talking to you on IM and it didn't sound easy! But two weeks ago we were on IM again, and you were telling me how you are working at the English school, and at Tomer Devorah, and I can't even begin to tell you how impressed I was with how much you "had it together", and how much strength you must have to have really gotten so settled. We're going to miss you Adira, I would have thought that the day you would have had a baby, Devorah and Shoshana would call me and say "Guess What? Adira had a baby!!! Its so cute, she's gonna be the funniest Ima" and instead this is the last news we'll be able to share about and with you. I want you to know Little Girl, that your Ima was special and she would have been the proudest mother in the world (I can HEAR her bragging about HER little girl). I'm sure she is the proudest ima in Shemayim. I'll miss you Adira. Love Rachel Berry Prero
I would also like to add the irony that your passing is on Rosh Chodesh. I think it is unjust that people weren't able to speak about you, but I know if you were alive to choose, that's how you would have wanted it. Your tznius demeanor would never have wanted everyone to know and to talk about you in public. Love Rachel
Adira, as your nach yomi chavrusa, I got to know you quite well over our year in seminary. I know there were times where you felt I was teaching you the material, but you don’t even know how much you taught me. Even early in the morning, you always had enthusiasm and were ready to go ahead. Most of the time we did spend making jokes about “honors” class and Lakewood, but you continued making the most of your year. You were able to have fun without going overboard and you always knew what to say to make me laugh. Adira, I will not forget you and hope to continue learning so that your neshama can have an aliyah. Love, Yardena
My dear Adira, I cried myself to sleep last night, hoping, like so many others that you would wake up and be okay. I don't even know what to say, we are all so devastated. I cannot claim to know why H-shem plans things the way He does, but I know the question on everyone's mind is why you? I know it's been awhile since I had spoken to you, but I still felt that no matter what, we could always pick up where we left off. There won't be anymore picking up. I feel so at a loss, so helpless. Adira, I will always remember your zest and enthusiasm for life. You were always so optimistic and had such a love for everyone. Your love of Torah and Yiddishkeit shined in your eyes so strongly, it was contagious. You always knew how to cheer me up and I will always remember the special times we shared, growing throughout high school. I was so happy when you stopped by my engagement party and even happier to hear of yours. May your husband and new baby girl gain comfort in your legacy. We have all been so blessed to know such a special person. Nachamu Yisroel, may your neshama bring a zechus to Klal Yisroel and Mashiach should come so soon. Love, Rochel
People often ask why G-d takes the best of them. To this, I add my voice, because Adira really was the best of us. She was always smiling. When I picture her face, I see that kind, warm smile. I can't imagine her any other way. Adira and I were in Darchei Binah together. We shared some classes and we were friendly, but not close friends. And yet, I can say without a moment of hesitation that she was one of the most friendly, unpretentious, down-to-earth, real, genuine, sweet, kind people I have ever met. As we try to absorb this powerful loss, many of Adira's close friends will remember what a beautiful person she way. I just want her family, and everyone, to know that even those who knew Adira just a little bit were touched by her graceful demeanor and inner strength that embodied her name. Adira was her essence. Adira, we will really miss you. Your memory will be a blessing for all who knew you. Love, Hadassah/Jessica Cohen Naiman
Adira was the kind of person who nobody could dislike. She was always smiling and full of simcha. If anyone was ever down, Adira would always make a comment or add in her hysterical sarcasm to make them smile. May her daughter follow in Adira's beautiful ways and grow to be a beautiful person like Adira was. Love, Mira Greenberg
Adira, I never even knew you, but this outpouring of love from everyone makes me sad that I never did. One of the hardest questions to have is "why?" Perhaps now you know the answer to this question. All I know is how grateful I am for the inspiration you have given me through the comments and feelings of others at your loss. Love, Channi
I was in seminary with Adira and this year I was working with Adira in Tomer Devora. Until last year at an alumni class in Darchei Binah, I hadnt seen her since seminary. I remember I was so happy to see her, and then to see her at teh staff meeting in Tomer Devora.. I was so happy she was working there also. Every Sunday I looked forward to sharing a fun joke with her or just seeing her bright smile. Her joy was contagiousand I was drawn to her. I remember I met Adira and Devora Zuckerbrod one of teh first people that I met and I think we were all trying to find the Holyland makolet...also for some reason i had these white tights and I remember Adira was dressing up as one of teh mechanchot so she asked me to borrow them and to this day I remember how she was laughing and asking me how i even came to own such tights--it was just so Adira ..anotehr funny memory-it was I think one of the last tiyulim of teh year and I remember Adira saying that she didnt know what to do, because she wante dto maybe work in Sternberg that summer but she had said she was never gonna work tehre so she didnt know if that constituted a neder and if she could go..i remember just laughing..she was so full of life and knew how to make otehrs laugh and laughed at herself..Hashem takes someone when their tafkid is finished and Adira's tafkid was finished- and she was shalem- although we had an inkling of how special and how frum and sincere she was,we cannot even comprehend the gadlus of Adira miller-boltshauser..may she be a meilitz yashra for all of us.
On a random morning two Elul's ago, I walked into the bris of my nephew in Kiryat Sefer, and long behold there was one girl sitting in the ezras nashim waiting for the bris to begin. It was with mere words that i was able to greet Adira, after not seeing or speaking to her for three years. We were so excited, as it is always exciting to see friends from old and good times. We shmoozed and after a few questions here and there to reunite, i realized she had no clue who was making this bris! I didnt think that anyone i knew would be at this Bris, let alone Adira!. She was actually the only girl on the ladies side all together until the family showed up. All i remember is saying wow. It was a busy working morning in eretz yisroel, and Adira came to this Bris.
Friends, there are some people in this world who just do their thing, try to do get in a few mitzvos and go about their merry lives. I cant say i knew Adira so so well, but i knew she was a girl who went after mitzvos. She was a girl who cared so much about her yiddishkeit, and her excitement for yiddishkeit was so evident. Adira was a girl who came to a Bris on a weekday morning, and did not even know who the mom of the baby was! What a zechus it is to know Adira. May we all be comforted and Hashem should grant us Geulah.
After our shabbaton in Bnei Brak, Adira and I decided that if we would ever turn chassidish we would definitely do it Vizhnitz style!After nach yomi one day, we were informed about "what not to wear to bnei brak" for our upcoming shabbaton- and obviouslly, Adira and I took that very, very seriously. We decided that we were going to do it right! We decided that we would study the sefer, "Oz vehadar levusha" very carefully, not skipping over any chumrahs at all! We wanted to make sure we wore the right colors (I think we chose black, but that's just my guess), wore our hair in a tznius,bas yisroel manner and learned what words to use and how to speak in an aidel and refined manner. We had such a great time! I also remember that the day we were going to go to Sara Schenirer's kever and seminary, we decided that we would take the shtarkest, frummiest picture of the two frummest non bais yaakov girls ever in front of the school(we even named our bus in yiddish- "the ershte bus")! We wanted to show everyone that you don't have to go to BY to be frum- and that's what we did! We took a picture of us shteiging in front of the seminary... Adira constantly strived to grow in her frummkeit and had a tremendous hashpa'a on all of those around her. Her dedication to torah and mitzvos was incredible. Adira taught me that living b'simcha is a mindset unlike any other and I hope that one day I will reach the level of simcha Adira lived by. We will miss you! Love, Shoshana Gres
I took a class at Touro with Adira. It was an early Sunday morning class and there were only 3 students so we all got to know each other. The professor was a non-religious Israeli woman. Adira had just gotten married and was waiting to finish the semester so she could move to Eretz Yisrael and the professor had so many questions for Adira about her husband and her marriage and her upcoming move. Adira did not feel comfortable discussing the more private details of her life with us, but she always found a gentle way to change the topic without embarrassing the professor. I did not know Adira outside of the classroom, but I'm sure this woman was one of many whose feelings Adira protected. May each situation that she handled with such dignity and grace be a zchut for her husband and baby daughter. Aliza Back
We plan on putting together a compilation or sefer mazkeret in time for Adira's shloshim. Many friends, neighbors, and family members have already been contacted as we attempt to get together as many entries as possible from people who knew Adira at all different stages in her life. The only thing we ask each contributor to include is his/her name and specifically where and when they knew Adira from so that her daughter will Im Yirtzeh Hashem have a tangible connection to her mother's past. Please email me at rochelfield@gmail.com for more information. Thank you and may we only hear b'suros tovos.
For two years I gave Adira rides back and forth from Touro to Lakewood. In that time, me and the other passengers in my car got to know a super friendly, smiley, humorous, and refined girl. We discussed everything and Adira made us all laugh. We would stop off for food or coffee on the way home and Adira made our hour plus rides fly by with her jokes and humor. It was a privelege to know Adira and to have spent those hours in the car together with her. She always put a smile on my face and never, ever spoke badly about anyone (even when we complained about horrible professors!). She will be missed by so many whose lives she touched, including me. I hope that her daughter grows up knowing what a special and amazing mommy she had. Not many people possess the quality to be remembered years later and to possess such chain and such a wonderful and pleasant personality. - Malky (Hershkowitz) Blachorsky
We are creating a memorial book for Adira (with Yehudas approval) - with pictures, videos and stories. Please upload to the site - total chesed project - no money and no advertisements. We would like to make into a hard book to be looked at again and again by her family and daughter. Please upload to http://adiraboltshauser.yizkor.com
Good Morning and Chodesh Tov,
ReplyDeleteI am sure we are all having a hard today since we woke up to the news of the passing of our dear friend, Adira (Miller) Boltshauser. I am sure many of you are thinking like I am, disbelief and sadness. In addition, we all want to know what to do as a zechus for Chaya Adira Chana -as Shoshana for her Neshama. A friend has created a blog in order for all of us to write memories we have of our dear friend. Writing down good memories of her kind deeds, sweetfulness, and her thoughtful personality will not only keep our memories alive, but should also be a zechus for her neshama to have an aliyah.
Please share your memories and may it be a zechus for leilui nishmasa for Chaya Adira Chana -as Shoshana.
Chodesh Tov and may we only share in Mesoros Tovos!
-Adira's Friends
Dear Adira,
ReplyDeleteMazal Tov, you had a beautiful girl. We are crying for you that you are not alive to hold her or shower her with love, even though your neshama knows about her. Its extremely painful for your friends that you could go like this, and we want to believe its not true, because well, you're Adira. I am thinking about all the times in seminary we made fun of you for being one of the few girls in seminary to be in Honors Classes. You didn't care- you made fun of yourself too- and then you continued your papers and working extra hard. I always was envious of your drive and that you were willing to put in extra work. We also used to joke in our apartment how you wouldn't come out of the bathroom after a shower until you were not only dressed, but your socks were on! You took modesty very seriously, in both dress and demeanor. You came to my engagement party with Yehuda and you didn't tell us you were engaged! You had this huge simcha, but didn't want to take the excitement from our spotlight. You two were so perfect for each other! Then you made a humongous transition from Touro in NY to living in Kiryat Sefer. I can't even imagine how hard that was, and I vaguely remember talking to you on IM and it didn't sound easy! But two weeks ago we were on IM again, and you were telling me how you are working at the English school, and at Tomer Devorah, and I can't even begin to tell you how impressed I was with how much you "had it together", and how much strength you must have to have really gotten so settled. We're going to miss you Adira, I would have thought that the day you would have had a baby, Devorah and Shoshana would call me and say "Guess What? Adira had a baby!!! Its so cute, she's gonna be the funniest Ima" and instead this is the last news we'll be able to share about and with you. I want you to know Little Girl, that your Ima was special and she would have been the proudest mother in the world (I can HEAR her bragging about HER little girl). I'm sure she is the proudest ima in Shemayim. I'll miss you Adira.
Love Rachel Berry Prero
I would also like to add the irony that your passing is on Rosh Chodesh. I think it is unjust that people weren't able to speak about you, but I know if you were alive to choose, that's how you would have wanted it. Your tznius demeanor would never have wanted everyone to know and to talk about you in public.
ReplyDeleteLove Rachel
Adira, as your nach yomi chavrusa, I got to know you quite well over our year in seminary. I know there were times where you felt I was teaching you the material, but you don’t even know how much you taught me. Even early in the morning, you always had enthusiasm and were ready to go ahead. Most of the time we did spend making jokes about “honors” class and Lakewood, but you continued making the most of your year. You were able to have fun without going overboard and you always knew what to say to make me laugh. Adira, I will not forget you and hope to continue learning so that your neshama can have an aliyah.
ReplyDeleteLove, Yardena
My dear Adira, I cried myself to sleep last night, hoping, like so many others that you would wake up and be okay. I don't even know what to say, we are all so devastated. I cannot claim to know why H-shem plans things the way He does, but I know the question on everyone's mind is why you? I know it's been awhile since I had spoken to you, but I still felt that no matter what, we could always pick up where we left off. There won't be anymore picking up. I feel so at a loss, so helpless.
ReplyDeleteAdira, I will always remember your zest and enthusiasm for life. You were always so optimistic and had such a love for everyone. Your love of Torah and Yiddishkeit shined in your eyes so strongly, it was contagious. You always knew how to cheer me up and I will always remember the special times we shared, growing throughout high school. I was so happy when you stopped by my engagement party and even happier to hear of yours.
May your husband and new baby girl gain comfort in your legacy. We have all been so blessed to know such a special person. Nachamu Yisroel, may your neshama bring a zechus to Klal Yisroel and Mashiach should come so soon.
Love, Rochel
People often ask why G-d takes the best of them. To this, I add my voice, because Adira really was the best of us.
ReplyDeleteShe was always smiling. When I picture her face, I see that kind, warm smile. I can't imagine her any other way.
Adira and I were in Darchei Binah together. We shared some classes and we were friendly, but not close friends. And yet, I can say without a moment of hesitation that she was one of the most friendly, unpretentious, down-to-earth, real, genuine, sweet, kind people I have ever met.
As we try to absorb this powerful loss, many of Adira's close friends will remember what a beautiful person she way. I just want her family, and everyone, to know that even those who knew Adira just a little bit were touched by her graceful demeanor and inner strength that embodied her name. Adira was her essence.
Adira, we will really miss you. Your memory will be a blessing for all who knew you.
Love,
Hadassah/Jessica Cohen Naiman
Adira was the kind of person who nobody could dislike. She was always smiling and full of simcha. If anyone was ever down, Adira would always make a comment or add in her hysterical sarcasm to make them smile. May her daughter follow in Adira's beautiful ways and grow to be a beautiful person like Adira was.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Mira Greenberg
Adira, I never even knew you, but this outpouring of love from everyone makes me sad that I never did. One of the hardest questions to have is "why?" Perhaps now you know the answer to this question. All I know is how grateful I am for the inspiration you have given me through the comments and feelings of others at your loss.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Channi
I was in seminary with Adira and this year I was working with Adira in Tomer Devora. Until last year at an alumni class in Darchei Binah, I hadnt seen her since seminary. I remember I was so happy to see her, and then to see her at teh staff meeting in Tomer Devora.. I was so happy she was working there also. Every Sunday I looked forward to sharing a fun joke with her or just seeing her bright smile. Her joy was contagiousand I was drawn to her. I remember I met Adira and Devora Zuckerbrod one of teh first people that I met and I think we were all trying to find the Holyland makolet...also for some reason i had these white tights and I remember Adira was dressing up as one of teh mechanchot so she asked me to borrow them and to this day I remember how she was laughing and asking me how i even came to own such tights--it was just so Adira ..anotehr funny memory-it was I think one of the last tiyulim of teh year and I remember Adira saying that she didnt know what to do, because she wante dto maybe work in Sternberg that summer but she had said she was never gonna work tehre so she didnt know if that constituted a neder and if she could go..i remember just laughing..she was so full of life and knew how to make otehrs laugh and laughed at herself..Hashem takes someone when their tafkid is finished and Adira's tafkid was finished- and she was shalem- although we had an inkling of how special and how frum and sincere she was,we cannot even comprehend the gadlus of Adira miller-boltshauser..may she be a meilitz yashra for all of us.
ReplyDeleteDear Friends and Family of Adira, bsd
ReplyDeleteOn a random morning two Elul's ago, I walked into the bris of my nephew in Kiryat Sefer, and long behold there was one girl sitting in the ezras nashim waiting for the bris to begin. It was with mere words that i was able to greet Adira, after not seeing or speaking to her for three years. We were so excited, as it is always exciting to see friends from old and good times. We shmoozed and after a few questions here and there to reunite, i realized she had no clue who was making this bris! I didnt think that anyone i knew would be at this Bris, let alone Adira!. She was actually the only girl on the ladies side all together until the family showed up. All i remember is saying wow. It was a busy working morning in eretz yisroel, and Adira came to this Bris.
Friends, there are some people in this world who just do their thing, try to do get in a few mitzvos and go about their merry lives. I cant say i knew Adira so so well, but i knew she was a girl who went after mitzvos. She was a girl who cared so much about her yiddishkeit, and her excitement for yiddishkeit was so evident. Adira was a girl who came to a Bris on a weekday morning, and did not even know who the mom of the baby was! What a zechus it is to know Adira. May we all be comforted and Hashem should grant us Geulah.
After our shabbaton in Bnei Brak, Adira and I decided that if we would ever turn chassidish we would definitely do it Vizhnitz style!After nach yomi one day, we were informed about "what not to wear to bnei brak" for our upcoming shabbaton- and obviouslly, Adira and I took that very, very seriously. We decided that we were going to do it right! We decided that we would study the sefer, "Oz vehadar levusha" very carefully, not skipping over any chumrahs at all! We wanted to make sure we wore the right colors (I think we chose black, but that's just my guess), wore our hair in a tznius,bas yisroel manner and learned what words to use and how to speak in an aidel and refined manner. We had such a great time! I also remember that the day we were going to go to Sara Schenirer's kever and seminary, we decided that we would take the shtarkest, frummiest picture of the two frummest non bais yaakov girls ever in front of the school(we even named our bus in yiddish- "the ershte bus")! We wanted to show everyone that you don't have to go to BY to be frum- and that's what we did! We took a picture of us shteiging in front of the seminary...
ReplyDeleteAdira constantly strived to grow in her frummkeit and had a tremendous hashpa'a on all of those around her. Her dedication to torah and mitzvos was incredible. Adira taught me that living b'simcha is a mindset unlike any other and I hope that one day I will reach the level of simcha Adira lived by.
We will miss you!
Love, Shoshana Gres
I took a class at Touro with Adira. It was an early Sunday morning class and there were only 3 students so we all got to know each other. The professor was a non-religious Israeli woman. Adira had just gotten married and was waiting to finish the semester so she could move to Eretz Yisrael and the professor had so many questions for Adira about her husband and her marriage and her upcoming move. Adira did not feel comfortable discussing the more private details of her life with us, but she always found a gentle way to change the topic without embarrassing the professor.
ReplyDeleteI did not know Adira outside of the classroom, but I'm sure this woman was one of many whose feelings Adira protected. May each situation that she handled with such dignity and grace be a zchut for her husband and baby daughter.
Aliza Back
We plan on putting together a compilation or sefer mazkeret in time for Adira's shloshim. Many friends, neighbors, and family members have already been contacted as we attempt to get together as many entries as possible from people who knew Adira at all different stages in her life. The only thing we ask each contributor to include is his/her name and specifically where and when they knew Adira from so that her daughter will Im Yirtzeh Hashem have a tangible connection to her mother's past. Please email me at rochelfield@gmail.com for more information. Thank you and may we only hear b'suros tovos.
ReplyDeleteFor two years I gave Adira rides back and forth from Touro to Lakewood. In that time, me and the other passengers in my car got to know a super friendly, smiley, humorous, and refined girl. We discussed everything and Adira made us all laugh. We would stop off for food or coffee on the way home and Adira made our hour plus rides fly by with her jokes and humor. It was a privelege to know Adira and to have spent those hours in the car together with her. She always put a smile on my face and never, ever spoke badly about anyone (even when we complained about horrible professors!). She will be missed by so many whose lives she touched, including me. I hope that her daughter grows up knowing what a special and amazing mommy she had. Not many people possess the quality to be remembered years later and to possess such chain and such a wonderful and pleasant personality. - Malky (Hershkowitz) Blachorsky
ReplyDeleteWe are creating a memorial book for Adira (with Yehudas approval) - with pictures, videos and stories. Please upload to the site - total chesed project - no money and no advertisements. We would like to make into a hard book to be looked at again and again by her family and daughter. Please upload to http://adiraboltshauser.yizkor.com
ReplyDelete